With our first adoption we were open to a child of any race. With our second adoption we deliberately signed up in an agency assisted program for the adoption African American or bi-racial children after learning about the great need for families willing to adopt these children. Our agency had more birth mothers than families willing to adopt these children.
Before our first adoption, we went through a cross-cultural training. It was very disheartening. I began to feel like it was almost abusive for us to adopt a child of color considering where we live. We began to understand how difficult it was going to be for our child/ren. At this point we don't feel called to move to a more diverse area because we feel there is so much to offer to children to growing up in a woodsy small town, but we are learning to be sensitive to their needs. Now that we are getting out a bit more I am noticing the long stares that Christiana receives. Amanda doesn't attract quite as much attention because there are other brown-skinned people (Asian, Hispanic and Native American) in our area but very few black people (African American, Jamaican, African or Haitian).
My point is that we need to be educated, sensitive and open with our girls and not just brush our differences under the rug by saying that love is color-blind. We need to see color and embrace it.
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