Monday, January 26, 2009

Saying Good-bye to Chicky


Today we had to say, "Goodbye," to our cat, Chicky. She's been very ill and miserable. She will be missed.
Chicky first came into our home in secret. I was visiting my brother who had a stray cat in his garage. Apparently it had come from my sister's house. It had been a long time since we had a pet, so I agreed to take it home. About a month later, we realized that she was pregnant. Chicky was one of the kittens born during the week the kids and I were attending my cousins' weddings. Her full name is Chicago White Sox.

She's been very attached to Tyler from the start. Tyler has always been so good to her even if he loved to get her all wild and crazy.
Tony enjoyed a game of Yatzee or two with Chicky. "Look Chicky got a Yatzee!"
Amanda loved the kitty, too. It was one of her first words.

It was heart breaking to hear Amanda calling, "Kitty, Kitty!" as we were driving to the vet today and Chicky was howling.

I grew up on a farm and I know this is very normal, but it still makes me sad.

4 comments:

Michelle said...

I'm sorry...how sad. I would have been in tears listening to Amanda.

I'm praying for your adoption! I wish we were going down that same path.

Blessings,
Michelle

Shebee said...

Sorry to hear about Chicky. Shainna loves Nikki's cat also. Thanks for the blog tips. I did some changes on it last night and it is much better. I e-mailed you but not sure if you still have that account. Sheila

Dionne Sincire said...

Hi Katie,
Thanks for reading my blog. It's been nice getting to know you through your posts. You have a beautiful family, you daughter is especially cute! :)

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I hope this helps!
Dionne

Anonymous said...

Aw! Sorry to hear that....my cat was put to sleep yesterday and I was distraught. She was 19 (I'm 26) so she's been with me most of my life but she had a good life! It is sad when a pet dies, more so when you have to make the choice! Hugs!
Emma